A Crime in the Shadows

“Sexual harassment and abuse is devastating to victims. It is one of the worst forms of abuse that has long ranging mental and physical impact. Denial by the accused causes further damage. False accusations on the other hand undermine the dignity of the true victims” Sexual Abuse Victim

November 18, 2017 – Allegations of Sexual Abuse and Assault are rising to the headlines. A crime that has lurked in the shadows for ages is now appearing at the top news spots. The accusations of sexual aggression and abuse against Harvey Weinstein, a Hollywood mogul, are surfacing by the minute. The #MeeToo campaign gave many victims/survivors a voice.

Now that these grievous acts are in the open, it would seem that many are using these surfacing stories of sexual aggression as weapons against political opponents without realizing the continued damage to the victim/survivor. Conversely victim/survivor shaming has been added to the political arsenal as a defensive tool to justify the horrible crime and act of political allies as if to say “she, or he, were asking for it”.

One needs only to talk to a victim to realize the shame and damage to dignity they are forced to encounter as they tell their story. Somehow they were made to feel responsible for the act of aggression against them. Recently Leeann Tweeden came forward to share her experience with Senator Al Franken in which the former comedian, now US Senator, openingly groped and kissed the model/reporter against her will. Even though Sen. Franken responded with an admission and apology, many shamed Leeann Tweeden by posting pictures of the model/reporter that appeared in Playboy somehow hoping this mindless act would discredit Tweeden.  Such as the tweet from Vivian Copelan below;

Leanne Tweeden

So the argument here is that any model in a “sexy” picture or nude in an adult magazine, gives the open invitation for sexual aggression? If this argument and methodology is creditable, perhaps we should look at the early careers of male celebrities. Does this  photo of news reporter Dave Biscobing of ABC15 News take away his credibility and give females or males the right to grope and kiss him against his will?

Image result for Dave Biscobing

A double standard? That is not our intent. As we rush to discredit female victims of  sexual aggression by posting pictures from their modeling career, we must use the same rule of law in other areas.

The act of victim/survivor shaming is not owned by a particular party as we learned in Breitbart’s article that attempted to discredit a Roy Moore accuser by publishing the story: Attalla, ALABAMA — Darrel Nelson, the stepson of Republican senatorial candidate Roy Moore accuser Beverly Young Nelson, claims that his stepmother’s accusations are “one hundred percent a lie.” 

Given the gravity of the act of sexual aggression the question needs to be asked;

  • Is the politicization of sexual aggression damaging to a discourse our society as a whole needs to be engaged in?
  • Are we more concerned about having a political advantage than we are the harm that has been caused and continues to devastate the victim?
  • Should we not be taking this opportunity to educate our children about respect for others?
  • Should we not be talking about how sexual aggression can be a devastating act that can cause the victim lifelong damages both physically and emotionally?
  • Should we be asking why perpetrators feel comfortable with their damaging actions?
  • Should we ask what in our society causes one to be a sexual abuser or predator?

Here are the facts…

US Department of Justice Descriptions of Sexual Crime

  • Rape – Forced sexual intercourse including both psychological coercion as well as physical force. Forced sexual intercourse means penetration by the offender(s). Includes attempted rapes, male as well as female victims, and both heterosexual and same sex rape. Attempted rape includes verbal threats of rape.
  • Sexual assault – A wide range of victimizations, separate from rape or attempted rape. These crimes include attacks or attempted attacks generally involving unwanted sexual contact between victim and offender. Sexual assaults may or may not involve force and include such things as grabbing or fondling. It also includes verbal threats.

Every 98 seconds an American is sexually assaulted.

The Facts from The US Department of Justice 

  • About 20 million out of 112 million women (18.0%) in the United States have been raped during their lifetime. 12
  • Only 16% of all rapes were reported to law enforcement. 12
  • In 2006 alone, 300,000 college women (5.2%) were raped. 12
  • Among college women, about 12% of rapes were reported to law enforcement. 12
  • A Centers for Disease Control and Prevention survey on the national prevalence of intimate partner violence, sexual violence, and stalking found:
    • 81% of women who experienced rape, stalking, or physical violence by an intimate partner reported significant short- or long-term impacts. 18
    • About 35% of women who were raped as minors also were raped as adults, compared to 14% of women without an early rape history. 18
    • 28% of male rape victims were first raped when they were 10 years old or younger. 18
Child/Teen Victims
  • In a 2012 maltreatment report, of the victims who were sexually abused, 26% were in the age group of 12–14 years and 34% were younger than 9 years. 9
  • Approximately 1.8 million adolescents in the United States have been the victims of sexual assault. 4
  • Research conducted by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) estimates that approximately 1 in 6 boys and 1 in 4 girls are sexually abused before the age of 18. 1
  • 35.8% of sexual assaults occur when the victim is between the ages of 12 and 17. 1
  • 82% of all juvenile victims are female. 5
  • 69% of the teen sexual assaults reported to law enforcement occurred in the residence of the victim, the offender, or another individual. 5
  • Teens 16 to 19 years of age were 3 ½ times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.6
  • Approximately 1 in 5 female high school students report being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner. 7

Disclosure Among Victims

Father having a serious conversation with young son

  • Not all sexually abused children exhibit symptoms—some estimate that up to 40% of sexually abused children are asymptomatic; however, others experience serious and long-standing consequences. 1
  • A common presumption is that children will give one detailed, clear account of abuse. This is not consistent with research; disclosures often unfold gradually and may be presented in a series of hints. Children might imply something has happened to them without directly stating they were sexually abused—they may be testing the reaction to their “hint.” 14
  • If they are ready, children may then follow with a larger hint if they think it will be handled well. 14
  • It is easy to miss hints of disclosure of abuse. As a result, a child may not receive the help needed. 14
  • Disclosure of sexual abuse is often delayed; children often avoid telling because they are either afraid of a negative reaction from their parents or of being harmed by the abuser. As such, they often delay disclosure until adulthood. 14
  • Males tend not to report their victimization, which may affect statistics. Some men even feel societal pressure to be proud of early sexual activity, regardless of whether it was unwanted. 1
  • Studies of adults suggest that factors such as the relationship to the perpetrator, age at first incident of abuse, use of physical force, severity of abuse, and demographic variables, such as gender and ethnicity, impact a child’s willingness to disclose abuse. 21
  • When children do disclose: 21
    • It is frequently to a friend or a sibling.
    • Of all other family members, mothers are most likely to be told. Whether or not a mother might be told will depend on the child’s expected response from the mother.
    • Few disclose abuse to authorities or professionals.
    • Of all professionals, teachers are the most likely to be told.
  • Historically, professionals promoted the idea that children frequently report false accounts of abuse. Current research, however, lacks systematic evidence that false allegations are common. Recantations of abuse are also uncommon. 21

Abuse via Technology

Up-close view of a woman’s hands typing on a laptop keyboard

  • Approximately 1 in 7 (13%) youth Internet users received unwanted sexual solicitations. 8
  • 9% of youth Internet users had been exposed to distressing sexual material while online. 8
  • Predators seek youths vulnerable to seduction, including those with histories of sexual or physical abuse, those who post sexually provocative photos/videos online, and those who talk about sex with unknown people online. 10
  • 1 in 25 youths received an online sexual solicitation in which the solicitor tried to make offline contact. 10
  • In more than one-quarter (27%) of incidents, solicitors asked youths for sexual photographs of themselves. 10
  • The most common first encounter of a predator with an Internet-initiated sex crimes victim took place in an online chat room (76%). 16
  • In nearly half (47%) of the cases involving an Internet-initiated sex crimes victim, the predator offered gifts or money during the relationship-building phase. 16
  • Internet-based predators used less deception to befriend their online victims than experts had thought. Only 5% of the predators told their victims that they were in the same age group as the victims. Most offenders told the victims that they were older males seeking sexual relations. 16
  • 15% of cell-owning teens (12–17) say they have received sexually suggestive nude/seminude images of someone they know via text. 11
  • Girl laying on the grass looking up at a cell phoneOf respondents to a survey of juvenile victims of Internet-initiated sex crimes, the majority met the predator willingly face-to-face and 93% of those encounters had included sexual contact. 16
  • 72% of teenagers and young adults believe that digital abuse is something that should be addressed by society. 16
  • 11% of teenagers and young adults say they have shared naked pictures of themselves online or via text message. Of those, 26% do not think the person whom they sent the naked pictures to shared them with anyone else. 20
  • 26% of teenagers and young adults say they have participated in sexting (12 different forms of sexting were examined), a 6% decline since 2011. 20
  • Nearly 40% of young people in a relationship have experienced at least one form of abuse via technology. A large majority (81%) say they rarely or never feel their significant other uses technology to keep tabs on them too often. 20

Perpetrators of Sexual Abuse

  • An estimated 60% of perpetrators of sexual abuse are known to the child but are not family members, e.g., family friends, babysitters, child care providers, neighbors.
  • About 30% of perpetrators of child sexual abuse are family members.
  • Only about 10% of perpetrators of child sexual abuse are strangers to the child.
  • Not all perpetrators are adults—an estimated 23% of reported cases of child sexual abuse are perpetrated by individuals under the age of 18.


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  2. Douglas, E., and D. Finkelhor, Childhood Sexual Abuse Fact Sheet, Crimes Against Children Research Center, May 2005. ( (December 21, 2011)
  3. Finkelhor, D., “The Prevention of Childhood Sexual Abuse,” Future of Children, 2009, 19(2):169–94.
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  5. “Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement: Victim, Incident, and Offender Characteristics,” U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics, 2000.
  6. “National Crime Victimization Survey,” U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics, 1996.
  7. Silverman, J. G., A. Raj, L. A. Mucci, and J. E. Hathaway, “Dating Violence Against Adolescent Girls and Associated Substance Use, Unhealthy Weight Control, Sexual Risk Behavior, Pregnancy, and Suicidality,” Journal of the American Medical Association, 2001, Vol. 286 (No. 5).
  8. Wolak, J., K. Mitchell, and D. Finkelhor, “Online Victimization of Youth: Five Years Later,” National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, 2006. ( (December 21, 2011)
  9. “Child Maltreatment 2012,” U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Administration on Children, Youth and Families, Children’s Bureau.
  10. Wolak, Janis, David Finkelhor, Kimberly J. Mitchell, and Michele L. Ybarra, “Online ‘Predators’ and Their Victims: Myths, Realities, and Implications for Prevention and Treatment.” American Psychologist, 2008, 63:111–128. ( (December 21, 2011)
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  15. The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, “Sex and Tech–Results From a Survey of Teens and Young Adults.” ( (December 21, 2011)
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  19. Finkelhor, D., and L. Jones, “Have Sexual Abuse and Physical Abuse Declined Since the 1990s?” Crimes Against Children Research Center, University of New Hampshire. (November 1, 2012)
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  22. Banks, D., and T. Kyckelhahn, “Characteristics of Suspected Human Trafficking Incidents, 2008–2010,” Characteristics of Suspected Human Trafficking Incidents Series, Bureau of Justice Statistics, April 2011. ( (June 16, 2014)

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